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Who is unpopular, is in his action weaker and mentally weaker. Therefore, it is important that you have friends and at best a well-functioning partnership. It does not mean that you are popular with a big expensive car or by things expected by others or status symbols. But that you have healthy social interactions with those around you. This can even extend into a "network" of relationships, which can give you many advantages in a mutual exchange.

Here is a summary of the content of a book by Dale Carnegie "How to Win Friends":

Basic rules for dealing with people

- Criticize, blame, and do not judge others
- Donate generously sincere appreciation
- Awaken in others an urgent need (as if it were their own idea, question, etc., let him do so with enthusiasm to)

Six ways to make yourself popular

- Be interested honestly for others
- Smile!
- Never forget that for every person the name is the most beautiful and most important word
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk about things that interest others
- Always accept and without reservation, the self-consciousness of the others

Twelve ways to convince people

- The only way to win an quarrel, is to avoid it
- Deal with the other opinions and never tell others: "This is wrong."
- If you're wrong, admit it without hesitation
- Try it always with kindness
- Give the other the opportunity to say "yes"
- Let the other one talk mainly
- Try honestly to see things from the standpoint of another one
- Bring good will to the proposals and wishes of others
- Appeal to the noble sentiments of the other
- Challenge others to compete

Nine ways to change people without offending them or annoying them

- Start with sincere praise and recognition
- Make the other only indirectly aware of his mistakes
- First, talk about your own mistakes, before you blame the other
- Make suggestions, rather than giving orders
- Give the others the opportunity to save their face
- You praise every success, even the slightest. Be cordial in your recognition and generous with praise
- Show the other that you have a good opinion of him and he will act accordingly
- Encourage the other, give him the feeling that he can improve his mistakes very easily
- It has to be a pleasure for others to fulfill your needs


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